What a pleasure it is to see a young couple entering into the office holding finger of a little one. The inquisitiveness of the little one’s eyes is quite visible. The parents are also filled with innumerable questions like how will my child manage? What will he do? How much will he learn? Are there swings in the school? How many activities will be taken up?
Being the head of the institution it takes away a lot of energy to pacify the queries of the parents but once they go out with a satisfying smile lurking on their face our job is half done.
Schools are the second home for our students and we as the second parent do our job diligently and responsibly but, when it comes to parenting I still feel that parents need to learn a lot more about it because the first four years of a child are the most crucial years, as the child develops his habits in this age. He starts picking up the language which is spoken at home. He enjoys imitating his elders and gradually adapts their way and style.
Patience is the key to Good Parenting
Have you noticed a child who has just returned from school, in spite of his spending 6 to 8 hours in school he is still bubbling with energy? His main aim is to share each and every little happening of the school which he has faced today. These generally include my so and so a friend had brought a tasty snack, his mother cooks so well. My tiffin was relished by my friends. The history teacher told me to focus more on the chapter ‘Ashoka the Great’. Games sir punished me because I forgot to take my skates today & many more.
Instead of nagging your child to go and change, first give them a patient ear. Trust me within ten minutes you can analyse the entire day of your little one. Communication is very important and I think is the foundation of all strong relationships. The freer your child is to you, the more you know about him. Keep on nurturing this bond with your keen eyes and silent listening and gradually you will see that he will start sharing his problems with you, where you through your experience will guide him on the right path. Take out time and give an ear to your little one. The little mind is full of questions which only a parent can satisfy.
Meaningful eye to eye conversation is very important in the formative years of a child. It helps the child develop confidence and strengthens a sense of belonging. Touch and hugs from parents boost the immune system of the child and provide the child with a sense of security.
“The sign of a great parenting is
not the child’s behaviour.
The sign of truly great parenting
is the parent’s behaviour”
Let him develop naturally
Do not impose your aspirations on him. He might be your child but he has a separate identity of his own. Let him pick his own likes & dislikes. Be like a mentor and not as a dictator. Remember today’s generation is wiser than ours. They need your support not your interference all the time.
A healthy analysis is fine, but avoid making unhealthy comparisons. We need to understand that every child is unique in his own way and this uniqueness should be respected. Academic success or failure should not be a parameter for your love towards your child.
Developing emotions in your child
Nowadays I have often seen that parents generally tell their little ones that they should not display their emotions in front of everyone as it portrays their weakness. They are wrong, as in human life emotions are very important and our younger generation should know the importance of it. It is due to emotions that we bind with each other. Friendship is one of the relations which has strong emotions involved in it. If you nurture the emotions in your little one, you will see that he will learn many things in which the feeling of sharing is very important.
If he/she learns to share his things with others you will see that he will gradually develop into an empathetic person. From sharing comes the feeling of gratitude. Enable your child to count his blessings and he should learn to be grateful to everyone who really toiled hard to make him and his life comfortable.
Critical analysis for every person is very important but, one should not forget that too much critical thinking brings negativity. Teach your child to balance emotions through his behaviour. Always remember that parents play a lead role because children are extensions of their parents and have a natural bond with them. It is important to understand that subconscious programming cannot be taught but is absorbed by the child.
One most important component of good parenting is to have trust in your little one. Keep your eyes open, monitor his/her activities but never be invasive. Make him feel that you have trust in him. This emotional bond will surely help you to turn your child into a promising individual who will always think before he does something wrong. If a child develops a sense of responsibility and an ability to choose the right path he will never go astray and this achievement as a parent I think will be commendable.
Last but not the least instil ‘Confidence’ in him, teach him that his body is the powerhouse of energy, which used in a positive way can do miracles. Develop that confidence in your relationship too, so that if in any phase of life he feels disheartened your shoulder should be there for him to cry on. While bringing up children it has been observed that parents demand respect from them but forget to display it when it comes to their part. Children learn more from what you are than what you teach. Language is also an integral part of one’s behaviour, stress should be laid on the correct & polite usage of words. Make him strong enough that he does not fall into peer pressure. If a thing is wrong, teach your child to say ‘NO’.
Make your child a person of strong character & ethics for which you also have to work hard on yourself. It does not mean only giving the child a perfect life. It means teaching him how to lead a good and happy life in our imperfect world. Our kids watch us for a living. It’s their job: it’s what they do. That’s why it is really important to try our best to be a great role model.
While summing up I would say that,
“You can earn as much as you wish,
Reach a status high above but,
None of these is equal to
Having one sweet child to love!”
Seth Anandram Jaipuria School, Unnao
“Enjoy your Path to Mom. Relish every moment!”
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