Being a parent can be one of the most satisfying and rewarding experiences of your life, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. No matter what age your child/children is/are, your work is never done. To be a good parent, you need to know how to make your children feel treasured and loved while teaching them the difference between right and wrong. At the end of the day, the most important thing is to create a cherishing environment where your children feel like they can blossom and develop into confident, independent, and caring adults. If you want to know how to be a good parent, you need to first follow the steps below:
1. Your child-your source of pride:
• You should always be grateful for having your child. It is imperative to know that there are so many people who may not have the opportunity of having this privilege.
• They might exchange anything in their life to become a parent. So feel good and happy that God has chosen you to embrace this wonderful gift.
• Feel privileged and make your child feel the same. Never regret having a child nor make your kid sense such feelings.
2. Never ever compare:
This might be one of the most important parenting tips. No one likes to be compared with anyone else and this is basic human psychology as each and every person is unique in their own way.
• Comparing your child to someone else is a harsh thing to do and this might stay in your child’s head for a very long time.
• Instead tell your child about how unique he/she is and help them find their strong and weak points which will lead them to an amazing life journey.
•This never ever compare is valid for every human, How will you feel if your child compared you to the Uncle living next door?
3. Never pronounce harsh punishment:
• A child is not a child if he does not commit mistakes or make mischief. This does not mean that you have to always show a blind eye to all their mistakes. But the idea is that the punishment or response should be just as fair and reasonable.
• Under no conditions, you should subject your child to physical violence. Apart from losing their respect, hitting children can make them more violent. He/she will start beating others or become more aggressive in their dealings.
• Always look for other options to teach your child lessons on good morale, but never choose to physical abuse.
4. Remember how old your child is
• It is important that you change your parenting style as and when your child grows older.
• It is a mishap if you treat your teenage child as a toddler.
• Helicopter parenting is good when your child is an infant, but if you continue this when he gets older; it is surely going to backfire.
• With the increase in age, every child urges for independence. As a parent don’t oversee this need of your child and give appropriate space.
• Even though it is tough for parents to change their way of caring and loving their child, but age-appropriate parenting is the need of the hour.
5. Don’t rely too much on others ideas:
You can always listen what others have to say, but apply it to your family only if the suggestions and circumstances are favorable. But this does not mean that you follow whatever is told to you.
6. Give your child love and affection
• Sometimes the best thing you can give your child is love and affection. A warm touch or a caring hug can let your child know how much you really care about him or her.
• Don’t ever oversee how important a physical connection is when it comes to your child. Here are some ways to show love and affection
• A gentle cuddle, a little encouragement, appreciation, approval or even a smile can go a long way to boost the confidence and well-being of your children.
• Tell them you love them every day, no matter how angry at them you may be.
• Give lots of hugs and some kisses. Make your children comfortable with love and affection from birth.
• Love them unconditionally; don’t force them to be who you think they should be in order to receive your love. Let them know that you will always love them no matter what.
7. Listen, listen and listen:
Being a parent you should make it a point to show interest in things your child does and also what they have to say.
Thus if you show interest and empathize with him/her, there are chances he/she will confide in you whenever there is a problem, instead of going to friends or other people.
8. Spend Ample Time With Your Children:
This is a critical issue when both the parents are working and the child is left alone or is under the care of nannies or maids. There is hardly any quality time spent with children.
• In spite of your busy schedules, you should always spend a lot of time with your child. There is no alternative or substitute for this.
• Talking about daily life, going out or doing some activity together works wonders in strengthening your bond with your child.
• Make a special effort to be an important part of your child’s life.
• You may never know when they grow up and you might end up regretting missing those early moments of life with them.
9. Always explain before enforcing
Parents feel that it is their right to set the disciplinary rules and disobedience actions. But many times they forget that a child also has a right to seek an explanation for the same.
10. Stop seeking respect
Respect is something which should always come naturally and can never be forced upon. Therefore, instead of urging your child to respect you, make yourself worthy of his respect.
• When the children are young, parents are their only role model.
• Once the child grows and comes in contact with other people, he/she starts comparing you to others.
• As a parent you should try to be the most attractive to your child, thereby winning respect.
11. Be an Important Part of Their Life:
You should try to be an inseparable part of their life. The boundary between giving freedom and making them independent is thin, but as a parent, you should try to create a balance and abide by the same.
12. Praise in public reprimand in private
• To hit a child or scold him publically is the worst thing to happen to him/her. Never ever do that. Whenever you need to rebuke or lecture your child, select private moments. If done in public, it hinders the self-esteem of children.
• Besides, one should be assertive and kind when scolding and not be stern and serious. A child is very sensitive to such issues and that can affect his/her psyche quite badly.
• On the other side, if you want to praise him/her for a work well done, then, always do it in public. It is a great feeling for them when you praise them in front of their friends, elders or classmates. Follow this golden rule and you win respect and trust from your child instantly.
13. Help your children improve their social skills:
• When a parent fails to instill proper social skills and manners in their children, they grow up with same deficiency and remain aloof or socially ill-mannered.
• Your basic responsibility should be to make your child socially acceptable. Right from his early years, imbibe good behavior and mannerisms in him.
• When a child grows up and is socially ill-mannered all fingers eventually point to improper parenting.
Thus in order to avoid the blame, teach basic good etiquette and help your kid to increase his social quotient.
14. Special care in teens is must
Teenage – is considered globally a difficult phase in parenting. Managing your teenagers is a special case and sheer care is required at this stage. Teenage is considered to be the most sensitive age and your parenting during this phase can decide your child’s future well-being. Being too careless or being overprotective is considered to be dangerous. The best way to know how to be a good parent to a teenager is to let him be independent and free while stepping behind, still keeping a keen eye on his behavior. Also, this is the best time to teach them discipline through the 3 F’s principle.
Discipline should be:
• Firm: Consequences should be clearly stated and then adhered to when the inappropriate behavior occurs.
• Fair: The punishment should fit the crime. Also in the case of recurring behavior, consequences should be stated in advance so the child knows what to expect. Harsh punishment is not necessary. Using a simple Time Out can be effective when it is used consistently every time the behavior occurs. Also, use of reward for a period of time like part of a day or a whole day when no Time Outs or maybe only one Time Out is received.
• Friendly: Use a friendly but firm communication style when letting children know they have behaved inappropriately and let them know they will receive the “agreed upon” consequence. Encourage them to try to remember what they should do instead to avoid future consequences. Work at “catching them being good” and praise them for appropriate behavior.
15. Lead by an example
• Be a role model to your child.
• Kids Learn from their elders by Listening and Watching them.
• Practice things that you want your child to learn, If you want him/her to Read Books, you too have to read books in front of them. You can’t watch Television all day and expect your child to meditate and play sports, he/she will naturally be inclined towards watching television.
“Enjoy your Path to Mom. Relish every moment!”
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