Moral Values – As an educator or a parent when we talk about moral values, before we teach our children as a parent or an adult I have few questions to myself and to the readers!
What is that exactly means?
Are we following it in our daily life?
Moral values: is it something to be taught inside the classroom or one-one counselling sessions?
We can see our future generations with good moral values when we follow and set a role model for them.
What we sow is what we reap!
Dear Parents and Elders let’s self-reflect on us before we preach our children. Many instances and experiences in my life make me guilt when it comes to moral values!
Loving-kindness, compassionate behaviour, generosity, non-lying, moderation, non-excessiveness, service, there are a lot of values that could be listed. Do we possess all of these or any of these in our day to day life?
Let me explain in detail with the help of a few instances.
A 5-year-old child plays in the water tub, messes up with soaps and makes the place dirty. The parents are at work, the child lives with his grandmom. Now this is observed by the grandma and she asks the child about the incident, the child is not ready to accept the mistakes and blames his elder brother.
Later the grandmom complains to his mom. After the conversation between the mother and the child, the child accepts the mistake and apologises for lying to his grandma, the child states “If I tell the truth I may get beatings from you mom, I was scared, that’s the reason I did not accept”.
The reply from the child is really alarming, now being a parent who has become a catalyst for the non-lying behaviour of the child! Where are we going wrong?
Subconsciously the child’s mind was registered with some kind of fear which made the child for non-lying behaviour at the age of 5.
Think and act! Please respond to children, do not react to every single action. Parent is the first teacher where the child should build the trust and feel comfortable with. Is this happening?
The adult behaviours in recent years are the main reason for the deteriorating values among children in this generation.
Everyone at home is busy, the child is studying in the study room whereas parents watch television serials in the living room! Have we ever thought what will be the mindset of the child?
Busy shopping parents give gadgets to the children for time pass, but these are leading to harmful habits. Is this appropriate for our children?
Are we teaching moral values this way?
As an adult, we sit with our Social Media like Facebook, Watsup, Twitter!
Are we spending quality time with the children?
Have we ever spoken to our children about their choices and wishes?
We teach the difference between the healthy food and unhealthy food, but as an adult either a parent or an educator, are we following or eating healthy foods in front of them!
Where is the moral value?
One more incident when I saw a 7-year child crying in front of the shop demanding a junk food, after few minutes I saw her dad buying Lays Chips – Packet food, the moment it was in her hand she stopped crying. Now, what is the role of a father here?
I have a question for all the readers, if the child demands a drug or smoking product which equally harms as the packet food, will the father buy and give it in her hand?
Where is the firmness for adamancy control? Who is responsible to inculcate the behaviour?
Definitely, parents must be aware of the difference between strictness, pampering and firmness.
The moral values are not always taught inside the classroom set up. It is from the environment and for every child, the parents must set a role model.
What we sow is what we reap.
“Do unto others as you would have them unto you”
When we expect Moral Values are important to our children, we must follow in front of them, and then everything will fall in place.
Dear Parents, kindly reflect on the behaviour of yours towards the children.
Thanks for the opportunity to share our views!
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