The child is entering teens, and undergoing hormonal changes due to onset of puberty. While girls are expressive and easy with sharing among peer group of friends, it is difficult time for boys. Particularly if the child is introvert, likes to keep to himself with no friends around. A sudden behaviour change, drop of interest in studies , more closed in expression may happen.
Keep close eye on details- reasons could be any and many! Puberty creates lots of uneasiness, we all are aware. Is he in touch with someone elder like cousin, neighbour, friend, tuition mate, tutor , bus mate etc. sometimes wrong kind of exposure at wrong age could send child to a kind of shock. Which he is unable to share with you in fear that you will kind of escalate it or may even go out to scold the other child.
Any bullying happening around over his changing looks, not carrying branded gadgets, lack of game consoles, marks, or otherwise. Be in full support and instead of preaching – you need to handle it “ , listen to him and tell him ways to answer back or ignore as the case may be .
Check his bags, clothes, wardrobes, shoe racks in his absence if you find something unusual to avoid any possibility of substance abuse. Most crucial age 13-18 to keep them out of this, by being most trustworthy parent and by keeping stress levels as low as possible.
Motivation, a casual but not every-time awareness, high esteem, very strong confidence in self helps.
Notice are his sleeping habits changing. Keeping away from distractions of game consoles, mobiles is a necessity at this age. Peer pressure is at its epitome.
I suggest to engage such child in aggressive sport training like kick boxing, martial arts. May be just twice a week, energy channeling is crucial at this age.
Be soft but firm, and don’t always talk about studies. You need to strengthen your motherly bond with him . Believe me no one else can be best counsellor than a loving but vigilant mom. Phases come and pass , you need to help it move past. Things will improve but never give up patience.